Trust in dating

In an earlier post, I discussed how people involved in online relationships can develop intense bonds due to the unique ability for the anonymity and control provided by online interactions to enable expression of the “true self”: traits that a person possesses, but does not normally feel comfortable expressing to others.Research has shown that when we chat online, even briefly, these normally hidden traits become more cognitively accessible to us and we actually do succeed in expressing them to others (Bargh et al., 2002).

I think it’s those damn human feelings getting in the way again.By taking things slowly and being very intentional with our conversations, we were able to build trust with one another and to create a healthy foundation for romance.Here are the steps I took with my current boyfriend that helped us form our relationship:1. Whether you meet a guy for the first time online or in person, the main goal is to find out if you have enough common ground to explore a friendship.When my boyfriend and I were at this stage, we focused on talking about topics like faith, where we want to be in 5 years, and about our hopes and dreams for our lives.That’s not to say that we didn’t talk about less serious things like our favorite foods or the type of music we like.