One of the biggest challenges is entering the room - the first impression - and it is massively important. OK, there is an imaginary string coming out the top of your head. You will feel your rib cage rising, stomach coming in, and spine straightening. Congratulations, you just grew 1-2 inches, and, look more commanding!
Many pre-judgements and decisions are already made in that moment. Don’t puff out your chest, or push your shoulders back to much - if it feels really uncomfortable, it probably looks that way too. Here’s the difficult part (for us men), keep breathing, ready - and add a smile. there may be a feeling of happiness and lightness when you do this.
I have four times now witnessed hundreds of people go on hundreds of dates in only a few hours.
I’ve then analyzed their post-date opinions about each other, and paired them off. I organized literary speed dating events at the bookstore where I work.
Get rid of that bad breath (yes, you have bad breath). Pay attention to her, and don’t let your eyes wander around the room (too much).
I’m not suggesting you be as tough on yourself, as he was on me - but, the fact remains, the women attending a speed dating night, want a date, and most importantly, have an interest in making it happen. So I’m sitting with a women, she wants a date, and it’s my job to make sure she gets what she wants …… Personal grooming, remove those nose and ear hairs.
“I’m not exactly Brad Pit“; “I’m too busy to have a girlfriend”; “I don’t get to meet many women”; “I’m too shy to ask for a date”; or “I don’t have that gift of chatting-up women”. An old Sales Manager said to me years ago, “if they come in the door, they already want it, so make sure they don’t leave ’til they get it”. Warning: This is not a ’get sex quick’ scheme, for that, I suggest you go elsewhere. Before we get into that, a quick check that you have the basics - these are not secrets! Have a shower (a proper one, with soap and everything).
Some of the people you think you’re attracted to are probably jerks, and some are diamonds in the rough who you wouldn’t realize are awesome until you talk to them.Smile Approach your speed dating partner with a frank and open smile and you are sure to hit off with the right note.Nothing improves a person’s appearance as a real smile and the positive feeling it generates can go miles in creating a good impression on the girl before you.As you get older, it is time for you to realize that the perfect woman is not just going to fall right into your lap.As tragic a realization as that is, it is something that you have to accept.